Are You Addicted to Self-Help?

Be careful not to get “addicted to” self-help books, workshops, and so on. It’s great to use them; I do myself. But many people get trapped into believing that they must first “overcome” their fears, “conquer” self-doubt, and “breakthrough” obstacles before moving forward in their lives. There is no substitute for planning, doing research, setting a goal, and taking action. You grow strong and more alive by making decisions and taking action; you gain confidence by actually doing things; you learn about yourself by putting yourself out there; you overcome fear (of that one thing) only when you have mastered something through risk-taking, action, and experience. Books and workshops are wonderful to get you started and to keep you going. But there is no substitute for actually living your life. That’s where the true self-help resides.

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