Are You Asking the Right Questions?

While recently speaking at a nursing conference, the speaker before me was trying to make the point that nurses don’t support each other. One more sweeping generalization to put a negative thought in everyone’s head and start off the conference on the right note! She asked for a show of hands asking, “Who has ever had someone be mean to them?” About 1/3 of the audience raised their hands, and the speaker acted as though she’d obviously made her point. I almost wanted to laugh – ‘mean to them?’ I felt like I was back in kindergarten with that phrase. Who has lived to 5 years of age and not had someone be ‘mean’ to them?

I often speak and write on the subject of how nurses treat one another since it frequently comes up in nursing circles. I certainly don’t deny that the phenomenon of horizontal violence exists in high-stress work areas, especially in those settings where nurses are not supported and valued by management and administration. But I have always been able to see, and choose to focus on, all the ways that the vast majority of nurses are amazing to one another whether a new grad or otherwise. I know, after 35 years in the profession, that most nurses, including myself, consider it a privilege, joy, and part of being professional to support and nurture one another.

Rather than asking, “Has anyone ever been mean to you,” a more productive, positive and proactive question would be “How do you contribute to the greater good every day in your workplace?” or “How can you support and nurture yourself and thereby those around you?”

© Donna Cardillo (DonnaCardillo.com). All rights reserved.

Comments

  1. First of all I would like to thank you for helping women by wandering the world. My question is -Do you have plan to help school projects which help to keep welfare of ladies in the school?
    secondly Have ever come to Ethiopia to help women?

    Thank you!!!

  2. Donna Cardillo says:

    I have not yet been to Ethiopia. Perhaps one day I will get there.

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